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Attachment Style Quiz – What’s Your Type?

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Attachment Style Quiz

Time Required: Approximately 8-10 minutes

Total Questions: 20

Your attachment style shapes how you connect with others, respond to intimacy, and handle relationships. This quiz will help you identify whether you have a secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment pattern.

Think about your most significant close relationship (romantic partner, best friend, or trusted family member) as you answer these questions. There are no right or wrong answers—just honest reflections on how you typically feel and behave in relationships.

Instructions: Rate each statement based on how much you agree or disagree, thinking about your feelings and behaviors in close relationships.

1. I feel comfortable depending on others when I need support.
2. I worry that people close to me will abandon or leave me.
3. I prefer to keep my feelings to myself rather than share them with others.
4. I find it easy to trust others in close relationships.
5. I need a lot of reassurance that people care about me.
6. I’m uncomfortable when relationships become too close or intimate.
7. I can openly express my emotions and needs to people I’m close with.
8. My feelings about relationships swing between wanting closeness and needing distance.
9. I value my independence and self-sufficiency above most relationships.
10. I’m comfortable with both closeness and independence in relationships.
11. I often feel anxious or jealous in relationships, even without clear reason.
12. I believe it’s best to rely mainly on myself rather than others.
13. I can handle conflicts in relationships calmly and constructively.
14. I want to be close to others but fear getting hurt if I let them in.
15. I frequently worry that my partner doesn’t love me as much as I love them.
16. I feel secure in my relationships without needing constant validation.
17. Emotional closeness makes me feel trapped or suffocated.
18. My emotions in relationships are often intense and unpredictable.
19. I can ask for help when I need it without feeling weak or vulnerable.
20. I tend to push people away when they get too close, even if I care about them.

References

  1. Ainsworth, M. D. S., Blehar, M. C., Waters, E., & Wall, S. (1978). Patterns of attachment: A psychological study of the strange situation. Lawrence Erlbaum Associates.
  2. Bowlby, J. (1969). Attachment and loss: Vol. 1. Attachment. Basic Books.
  3. Hazan, C., & Shaver, P. (1987). Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 52(3), 511-524.
  4. Mikulincer, M., & Shaver, P. R. (2016). Attachment in adulthood: Structure, dynamics, and change (2nd ed.). The Guilford Press.
  5. Bartholomew, K., & Horowitz, L. M. (1991). Attachment styles among young adults: A test of a four-category model. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 61(2), 226-244.
  6. Main, M., & Solomon, J. (1990). Procedures for identifying infants as disorganized/disoriented during the Ainsworth Strange Situation. In M. T. Greenberg, D. Cicchetti, & E. M. Cummings (Eds.), Attachment in the preschool years: Theory, research, and intervention (pp. 121-160). University of Chicago Press.